There is a practice that was born years ago, but little by little it gains more strength in couple relationships. It is about BDSM, every day more accepted, better known and more fashionable.
What is BDSM? Meaning of its acronyms
BDSM (or bondage : when it refers to ties with ropes, ropes or other similar elements; discipline , when it includes rules, habits and behavior protocols that submissive people follow; dominance / submission when it refers to the role that each member takes of the couple to be the one who controls the other, and sadism/masochism , which is when a person obtains pleasure by inflicting pain or humiliation on their partner) is a sexual practice that fuels passion, since it offers various options to arouse all the pleasure.
Although for some it is still taboo, it is a technique that explores sexual control, imagination and masculine and feminine energy, here we will tell you what it is about, yes, it is important that you know that BDSM is adopted by members of the couple. different roles, between dominant and submissive.
What does it take to get into BDSM?
Basically what you need is to be willing, if you both say yes, establishing some rules is essential so that everything goes as you expect. Later, ropes, masks, ties and other toys will make the meeting more than pleasant. All an emotion and extreme excitement! Do you dare to experience it?
Roles in BDSM
There are different roles in BDSM that must be taken into account as they define the preferences of each couple. These relationships are based on a power game and are divided into dominant or submissive.
dominant types
In BDSM culture , a Dominant or Dom is one who has an active role with a submissive. He is the one who controls and can propose relationships of slavery, discipline, humiliation and servitude.
The dominant one is the administrator of the scene, that is, the one who takes the reins of it. The dominant can exercise his dominance beyond the sexual, directly influencing the decisions that are made within the relationship, without the submissive having much say. You must keep in mind that some doms can change roles in the long term.
Types of bottoms
Regarding the role of submission, it must be clarified that it can vary from person to person and from relationship to relationship. This role comes in many more types than the dominant one, these are some of the most important:
sexual submissives
They are the ones who enjoy giving control during sex or when there is some sexual affinity. Submissives may have various limits and preferences.
masochistic submissives
They enjoy receiving pain, they usually take pleasure in verbal and physical humiliation, degradation and even torture. Your dominant must be a sadist.
Submissives on the ropes
They also call themselves 'Rope Bunnies' and refers to all those people who like to be tied up. Feeling the rope in their body and at the mercy of the dominant causes them excitement. This type of submission needs certain precautions to avoid accidents.
submissive slaves
They are the exaggeration of submission. They like to differentiate themselves from the rest of the submissives and call themselves slaves. Being slaves is their only way of life, their only ideal is to serve their master.
Alpha Submissives
They are empowered, confident and strong women, however, they enjoy when they are sexually dominated. This relaxes the body and mind.
The Kajira
They are sexual slaves that belong to the fantasy universe of the 'Chronicles of Gor' saga. There are lovers of this saga who have adapted to these roles.
In addition to these types of submissives, there are also other well-known ones: the helpful ones : they find total pleasure serving a dominant and making themselves an essential object for their comfort and pleasure; the 'brats' who are defiant with the dominant, want to attract attention and be punished; the submissives or small submissives , who are those who feel mentally or physically younger than they are and act as such and finally another well-known one is the one that adopts the role of submissives or pet submissives or 'pets' , who pretend to be a companion pet.
the switch
This type of role has to do with someone who likes to be dominant and submissive in the sexual part. You can be whatever you want to be depending on when and where you are. He is comfortable being submissive or dominant and does well in either role.
What sex toys are used in BDSM?
If you like all this BDSM stuff , you should know that there are some sex toys that you have to include in your practice. Some are a mask, a collar with straps, sets of handcuffs for wrists and ankles, a gag, a whip, and a long restraining rope. The most important thing is that it be made of synthetic material, comfortable and that it generates trust and complicity as a couple.
What sexual practices does BDSM include?
BDSM does not include specific practices (that is, it is very broad) since with it you can let your imagination run wild and be as creative as possible and generate diverse practices. However, the best known has to do, as we mentioned here, physical domination, role-playing, erotic asphyxiation and needles to inflict pain.
Protocols in BDSM
There are some specific protocols that help this practice to be enjoyed, but also to be safe.
How to perform BDSM safely?
Keep in mind that to practice BDSM safely, you must first communicate fluently with your partner, talk about the expectations of the relationship, fears and what you want to experience.
The most important thing is to reach a consensus, set limits and not go beyond them. If there is any practice that really hurts, it should be stopped, you should also be attentive to your partner's signals, if you feel or see discomfort, it is time to stop.
Benefits of incorporating BDSM in couples
If you like this practice, you should know that in addition to being exciting, it provides different benefits:
- Increases the knowledge of the couple : Helps to discover the tastes and desires of oneself and the other, facilitates mutual discovery and trust.
- Increases creativity : Open your mind to experimentation and innovation in the sexual part.
- Revive the passion : It gives a twist to the relationship avoiding the routine and contributing new experiences.
- Relaxes and avoids stress : Without a doubt, sex is always good for relieving stress and this practice helps to generate new sensations that help to relax and maintain full attention to enjoyment.
Conclution
If you like new experiences, BDSM may be for you, discuss it with your partner, if you reach an agreement and both take the plunge, a whole world of sensations and high-level sexual pleasure awaits you. Would you try it? We recommend that you purchase an erotic couple's game from Chispa Club specifically for BDSM like this one for your first practices:
